Just Chantelle's Blog

Love and basketball is one of my favorite movies. It’s a story of love lost and found, teenage crush and growing up. Have you ever had a teenage crush and you never had the chance to be with the person? Or you had a relationship in your teen years and wonder “what if” about the relationship?

I had one of those. Well, actually two. My first was a grade school crush but I Always played the hardball with the guy because I didn’t want my friends to know that I was feeling him. Years later, through a reconnect with Facebook, I find this man had a crush on me and was too afraid to say something because he was worried what my friends would say… Funny how when you are kids, you allow friends to dictate who you should talk to. My reconnection with this guy is still the same… Neither one of us will be honest with each other about how we feel about each other… It’s funny how things turn out as you grow older. But when do we stop playing the game and be real?  You tell me…

The other gentleman played alot as a teen growing up so I really never knew if he was serious or not. Off of a question posted, I revealed my “teenage crush” to him. Well, now he says that he wanted to talk to me as well but never did…. Hmmm… So you had conversations about me to your friends but when it came time to talk you couldn’t… Oh well, we are grown now… But what if??? LOL… He calls me Monica, from the movie Love & Basketball, because he says he liked me “since we were 12 years old” (in the clip below… similar to 1:10).  This man played basketball, loved it, ate it and probably dranked it… When we got to high school, he (to me) was so consumed in the game and the girls chasing after him, I never had a chance.  Plus, he never approached me seriou enough.  Years have gone by and we both have good lives.  I appreciate our friendship and am in no ways trying to cause trouble in his life 😉  So, I will hold on to our “what ifs” and carry on life.

My advise to anyone who ever wanted anything or anybody (where it doesnt cause problems) go after it.  There’s nothing that beats a failure except a try… I tell my son to go after what he wants, reach higher heights, take the risks (without sining)… The worst thing to do is to grow older and have the I coulda, woulda, shouldas… Do what makes you happy despite your friends.