Just Chantelle's Blog

Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy…. Now what?

Have you ever been in a situation where you meet someone and right off the back there is something that draws you to them? What do you do? As a child, I was taught not to be a “fast-tail”.. What did that mean? It meant that regardless of what, the man was supposed to chase you and not the other way around.

So why is it that nowadays, the men wants a woman to chase them? That’s all out of Gods order… “Man findeth…”. So bro, I may be into you but I can’t chase like you may want it… The chase should be from the man and it should be subtle not far-fetched… There’s nothing wrong with pursuing a woman, asking her out and letting her know you are interested. What IS wrong is the ruthless approach… The sly comments, the long stares (creepy), the unwanted back rub and the getting to know me through my friends…

So, is it WRONG for a woman to tell a man that she’s INTO him? Would it be wrong for her to be the chaser? The statistics say that there is a 1:12 ratio of men to women. Is the church the reason why so many black women over 30 are single?